OFFICIAL PASTOR KONCHI ADOLF MINISTRIES SITE

This project will clarify our understanding of leadership in marriage and God's intented architecture for marriage

EQUALITY AND LEADERSHIP IN MARRIAGE 
God created a system for marriage which does not have dictatorship or authoritarianism included but that of leadership. Let's begin to look at what the Bible say, about marriage. Eph.5.23 - For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.Eph.5.24 - Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.Here Paul points out the role of each indidual and mariage. Hé points out that the husband is the head of the hone even as Christ is the head of the church. It is therfore tolhe model to be followed at home. I will like us to look at the head as literal as it is. The head is the location of intelligence and thought. Without the head, life is lost. Without christ, the essence of spiritual life is lost and without man, there is a high probability for the home to lose direction. The head unmistakably relays an idea of source. Christ is the source of our spiritual life and authoritativ voice. Colossians 2:10 potrays christ as Head of all rules and authority. So we can see the head as a source of which certain realities are shaped which may include a building, ministry, a church etc. Headship can be explained as a source of influence. 1Cor.11.12 - For as the woman is of the man, even so is the man also by the woman; but all things of God. We see a situation of interdependence and mutual love and respect. 
Now let's look at th Husband. In scripture, the Husban is the leader or the head which should not be seen as an oppressive position but a but leadership. The leadership of the Husban means setting an example to follow, having vision and direction. According to Matthew 20:25-26 means to minister to peopleand their needs. A husband as a leader should be able to give himself up for his wife and family just like Christ did for the church. Leadership have to be I light with Christ model who had authority but never saw a necessity to use it. Leadership does not mean one is superior to the other, it just mean God have given different functionalities to you. Wives are referred to as helpers. A helper is not a second-class or inferior being while some people interprète it as a replacement of a fill-in she is more than that. Psalms looks at it in this way Ps.70.5 - But I am poor and needy: make haste unto me, O God: thou art my help and my deliverer; O LORD, make no tarrying.The new Living translation translates God in this verse as the helper. Should God then be seen as interior no instead its a symbiotic relationship. A wife is an enabler that's synonymous of helper. In a marriage relationship where success, happiness and the pursuit of God's original plan is key, the husband will understand that he is incapable of working on it without the wife. Wives are not inferior but have different functions which are unique for a smooth functioning of the home. Any husband who understands his role at head and the wife as helper will highly respect and love her. This love love have to be sacrificial, sanctified and purified. Just like christ love the church. A man and woman comes together and become one flesh. They fill each others needs and complete or complement each other. Fulfilment in marriage does s not come freedom to do what one likes but from partnership and being able to depend on each other 1Cor 11:11-12Most at times couples are afraid of being completely dependent on each other for fear that their rights may be used for selfish purposes by their partners. It might be true but If we hold back, and do not dare to depend on our spouses, if we don't truely trust our spouses, then we rib our marriages of wgat it could be. To conclude let's note the following -there need not be inequality for God to institute leadership- godly leadership portrays authority and submission - the method of Gidly leaded ship is sacrificial love for the welfare of the one loved. - Godly leadership is relational not ductatoral- leadership of the man us carried out in submission to the head of tye man.- it is ordained by God and is God's design for marriage. - the wife is in the position to respect, and be submissive to the husband not focusing on his performance but capacity. Leadership is not dictatorship. Everyone has a rule in the home. The husband is the head, the wife a helper. Its symbiotic role not a competitive role.